In this electronic age, where digital everything rules, it’s nice when digital media comes in a pretty little package.
And that’s why I am so in love with my new Susan Eckert Photography flash drives!
Love My New Flash Drives from USBMemoryDirect.com!
Sure I can always electronically transfer a zip folder, or burn images to a CD/DVD, but these flash drives provide an updated, modern, fun alternative to sharing images. And so far, my clients are loving them!
With these thumb drives, clients who purchase image files don’t have to remember where they downloaded their images, they can easily load their images onto several computers/laptops, and they’ll always have a handy, attractive drive holding onto their precious art.
When these arrived, I was so impressed! The metallic case, which keeps the digital media safe, looked even better than I thought it would with its modern clean style – and it’s printed with my new logo!
Love My New Susan Eckert Photography Flash Drives from USBMemoryDirect.com!
And did I mention how cute the thumb flash drive is? A soft, feminine color and a cool swivel cover make for a really fun way to share image files! What’s better is that these are SOOOO easy to use! Just pop em in and voila – there are your images! So, even my clients who aren’t computer savvy will find them a breeze!
Happy Friday and enjoy your weekend!
Susan Eckert Photography
I’m going to tell you a story. And I’ll do my best to be concise. But there’s a moral to the story and it quickly follows so I hope you’ll bear with me…
My in-laws visit from time to time…from out of state. And when they come they usually bring gifts for my 3 children, which makes my kiddies glow with eager anticipation the second the in-laws step into the house.
Problem is, my in-laws LOVE a great deal! And to be fair, who doesn’t? I myself regularly explore smelly vintage shops, cluttered antique stores, and disorganized garage sales on the hunt for that ever elusive “Great deal.”
But the challenge is this: knowing the difference between a low price and a truly great deal, which I define as a a totally unique, amazing, or high quality thing that’s matched with an attractive price considering what you’re getting.
So, back to the story. At some point in my in-laws’ visit, they’ll break out the tissue wrapped items and dole them out to the jumping beans my children always somehow become at that very moment. Lovely family moment. Warms everyone’s hearts.
Until…sometimes….and kind of often…we find that what’s in the package is already broken. Simply doesn’t work. Or, we’ll pop a gift DVD into the player, make popcorn, and freak out once we realize that the DVD is a compilation of many VERY VERY old cartoons obviously relegated to the back shelves because they contain horrifying, racist depictions of cartoon characters, and very weird, if not outright disturbing plots. (At which point I’ll pinch my lips and glare at hubby until he finds a way to politely turn it off. And then we burn it.)
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that we don’t appreciate the gifts. We certainly appreciate the gesture! It’s just that…and here’s the morale of the story…you can’t lose sight of quality and value when you’re on the hunt for that ever elusive “Great Deal.”
The Value of Photography
Since photography has gone digital anyone can hang a sign and become a “photographer “virtually overnight. And the newer ones usually charge next to nothing for their work…until they figure out that there’s a whole hell of a lot more to being a professional photographer than just snapping pictures using automatic settings. So eventually they get smart. Or they get out.
Even though I had an art background, when I first started shooting I too had an ok, but kinda-crappy-for-a-pro sorta camera. But I fell in love with the field of photography, specifically boudoir. And once I actually got up the nerve to charge for my services, I too charged almost nothing. In fact, I distinctly remember paying attention a couple times and realizing that not only was I not making any money, hey, I was actually paying out of pocket to deliver my stuff to clients. Whoah! Way to go pro!
Many years, formal photography education, and tens of thousands of invested dollars later I’m a whole lot wiser. But holding my ground is tough in a field where there’s always that new batch of newbies charging next to nothing and delivering the best they can with what they have.
I’ve seen so many talented photographers shut their doors. Say forget it. Move on in new directions.
Maybe one day that will be me. But for now, I’m sticking to it. Clinging to my sense of self worth. And educating consumers who come my way about the value I offer…when they’ll chat long enough to hear it.
Truth is, sometimes, and for some people, a low price is the only variable worth considering.
But me? I’m gonna hold onto my preference for delivering the highest quality and value at a fair price because the rest is simply wasted time and energy.
Have a great week!
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Along with warm weather comes wedding season, and with wedding season comes anniversaries – and guess what? Women are increasingly turning to boudoir photography for a unique take on precious gift ideas for their beaus!
And this Long Island boudoir photographer is newly equipped with her Wonder Woman superhero mug (sure to regularly be filled to the brim with lots of caffeine) and creative ideas aplenty!
You know, my greatest passion is shooting women in their 40s, 50s and 60s. And I get that boudoir requires trust. So I was so happy to meet with a prospective client in my Long Island boudoir studio today – someone in that range – for a chat regarding what boudoir is all about. We got along great right off the bat and she signed up for a session on the spot. She thanked me again and again for spending the time to meet with her and answer all her questions, sharing stories and experiences that made her comfortable with me the person as well as me the boudoir photographer, the fine art nude photographer, the intimate photography photographer.
Her gratitude made me reflect on an experience I had a year or so ago. Hubby was asking me (bugging me?) to do a shoot for him. So I myself signed up with a boudoir photographer in another state. BUT she’d never get on the phone with me and instead opted repeatedly to have her assistant speak to me instead, even when I explained that I was a colleague and specifically requested a conversation with her. Needless to say, I ended up canceling the shoot. If she was this inattentive and uncaring already what would my experience with her be after the shoot? I didn’t want to find out. But it reinforced a valuable concept that’s oh-so important at my studio – everything I do – it’s about my clients first and foremost – about their experience, their happiness, their aesthetic, their comfort level, their joys, worries, celebrations, insecurities, concerns, and fears. All of it gets wrapped up in a tangled beautiful mess that is the experience of a WOMAN.
Since 2008 I’ve dedicated my life to these women – their vulnerable explorations of boudoir and their validating outcomes. I know 2013 will bring more of the same, even as I branch out in my exploration of new areas for my own creative expression.
And so, I look forward to everything the summer season will bring! There’s A/C in the studio, so let’s move forward in our celebration of everything that’s hot! (And I’m guessing that includes you!)
Come by the boudoir studio for a visit if you’d like to chat.
Have a happy Summer!
The Original Long Island Fine Art Boudoir Photographer
2000 sq ft studio located in Bohemia; Also offering location shoots throughout the NYC area
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Springtime Portrait Photography Sessions by Susan Eckert
Pastel colors. Brighter, longer days. Sunshine. Blooming flowers. I LOVE springtime!
Spring is a great time to do portrait sessions outdoors. Gardens, arboretums, beaches, nature preserves, and parks are green and blooming and serve as a perfect backdrop for beautiful portraits! And if you live here on Long Island, you know there is no shortage of all of the above. It’s why I love living here on the south shore of Long Island. Within minutes, there’s such a range of beautiful, natural spaces – perfect backdrops for my fine art, nature art, and portrait art.
Long Island Family Portrait Photography by SusanEckertPhotography.com
If you’re thinking about portraiture this spring or summer, consider a gift card from Susan Eckert Photography. They’re good for 6 months and can be applied however you like. Here are some great ways clients have presented photography as a gift:
- Hubbies presenting their wives with gift cards for a boudoir session in celebration of an anniversary
- Siblings came together and presented mom and dad (grandma and grandpa) with an anniversary gift
- Relatives came together and presented a new mom with baby’s first newborn shoot
- Family presented mom-to-be with a studio maternity/pregnancy shoot
- Mom and dad presented daughter and future son-in-law with an engagement shoot
In fact, I’m currently running a mother-daughter special shoot offer - consider purchasing a gift card and presenting mom with it as a mother’s day gift!
Time flies quickly. Children grow so fast. Family members come and go. Photographs captured and printed professionally are a wonderful way to capture life’s most precious moments and hold onto them forever.
Cherish today and consciously note your many blessings!
Best wishes for a wonderful week,
Susan Eckert Photography
Susan Eckert is a Long Island boudoir and portrait photographer specializing in life’s most precious transitional moments – whether you’re celebrating a milestone birthday or anniversary, the addition of a new family member, or the achievement of a major life goal, consider partnering with a professional photographer who will partner with you in the creation of beautiful portrait art.
Spring is here (even though it may not yet feel like it quite yet)!
Passover and Easter are upon us. Birds are chirping. Grass is growing–though I’ve yet to see signs of mine since Sandy brought seawater to our doorstep and probably killed it all. Bygones…
BUT that means mother’s day is right around the bend and have I got a great idea for you — a mother-daughter beauty shoot! What better way to celebrate the special bond than to capture the beauty between mother and daughter.
Whether you love artsy black and whites…
Long Island Portrait Photography – Mother’s Day Special Event
Or beautiful, soft images with a retro feel….
I’m offering a can’t miss deal for a one of a kind mother’s day event. Special dates will be held aside for these shoots and here’s how it will work:
*A 45-minute shoot, with choice of backdrops
*Masterful editing & retouching by me for your favorite three shots (I suggest one mother, one daughter, and one combo shot)
*Your choice of an 10×30 mounted collage print like the black and white one above or 3 mounted 8x10s for individual framing
*BONUS: your chosen 3 favs as 5x7s which you can share with other family members if you choose
*BONUS: your three chosen images as FB/web files for email and internet sharing
All for 550 (an 820 value and a savings of 270)
Consider adding on a licensed makeup artist for a super polished beauty look.
Please share this blog with your friends – if you sign up AND refer someone else who signs up for a session as well I will provide you with a thank you gift: Your choice of a 50 discount, or an additional mounted 11×14 print.
Email or call me at 631.398.4487 for available openings and to book your session. Note: All sessions must take place by April 15th in order to be ready for mother’s day. Don’t wait til the last minute – limited spots are available!
Have a wonderful holiday week/weekend!
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It’s no secret I absolutely love what I do. I’m extremely passionate about photography and even more passionate about cheering on my clients, pushing them past their perceived boundaries in the interest of proving to them that they can be the subjects of beautiful works of art!
In a saturated photography market it’s sometimes hard to figure out who to hire. Price is only one variable – but it’s the one most people tend to inquire about. And unlike buying a mass marketed product available just about everywhere (and where price is the only difference), boudoir photography services vary so much from one photographer to the next. It’s definitely not a one-size-fits all kind of experience, so I figured I’d point out a few variables that I believe distinguish me / my services from the next boudoir photographer.
- NO Outsourcing: I extend the same courtesies to my clients that I would expect from a intimate photographer I would hire. So, editing is a huge part of my creative process – I NEVER outsource editing of my boudoir photos – your images remain private, in my hands, and worked on only by me, not some group you’ve never met.
- Skilled Retouching: I’m a highly skilled retoucher and not only am I good at it, I love doing it. My goal is to make you look your very best without making you look like you’ve been retouched; pores and skin texture remain intact; images look polished – just as you would expect from a professional boudoir photographer. Many photographers don’t have/nor do they want to develop this skillset. And others would rather cover you up than allow you to wear skin-baring outfits that might possibly create a bit more editing work for them in photoshop. Not a problem here!
- Artist Eye: I sketch, draw and paint figures – although you might not be looking for that as part of your boudoir art, it still matters – so much of what’s sorely lacking in many boudoir images I see pertains to the unflattering lines of an image. You’ll never see highly unflattering poses in my portfolio for this reason.
- Variety: Many boudoir photographers shoot almost exclusively with natural light (a window and a reflector). While that’s a great look, it’s ONE look. I have developed advanced skills in studio lighting as well. What this means for you is this: lots of variety from just one shoot! During your shoot we can do both natural and studio lighting and explore a wide range of looks so that your book is varied and showcases the many sides of you.
- Large Boudoir-ific Studio Space: I’m a Long Island boudoir photographer with a studio space actually located here on Long Island. My 2000 sq ft studio space is feminine, comfortable, and allows for limitless shoot concepts and possibilities. I collect antique furniture pieces and have a huge supply closet filled with fabrics, backdrops and props/accessories for your shoot. It’s a great place to spend a day.
- Your Vision Matters: YOU and YOUR VISION are a big part of the process. It’s not all about me and my vision. I’m a humble photographer and invite you to partner with me in the process of bringing your fantasy shoot to life. And if you don’t have a vision – not to worry, together we’ll create one!
- A Process Perfect for First-Timers: If you’re nervous or shy in front of the camera, don’t worry – I completely empathize! My process pretty much ensures that each of my clients will look her absolute best!
- Flexibility: From payment plans to customized arrangements, I’m committed to working in a flexible manner that makes boudoir photography a can-do for those who really appreciate the art of it all.
- Range: I’ve been published for fine art nudes. I’ve been published for fashion photography. So whether you want to wear stylish wardrobes or nothing at all, I do it all. Some photographers aren’t comfortable with nudes; that’s never a problem here. When you hire me for your art nudes, you’re working with a true professional who will never make you feel uncomfortable.
- Personality : I’ve heard some horror stories over the years. From insensitivity, to arrogance, to cold attitudes on the part of arrogant photographers. I just shake my head. This is BOUDOIR! There is no room for any of that when it comes to intimate photography! Boudoir should be fun and rewarding. I’m a kind soul, entertaining, and humble – but don’t take my word for it, I’m happy to connect you with a recent client or two who’ll share their experience with you.
And although I didn’t include it above (really it came down to “Who creates 11 point lists?!”) quality is absolutely a distinguishing factor. I work with the best cameras, lenses, and other equipment, and am constantly learning, learning, learning so that I can employ new techniques and methods for creating the best images possible….all for you!
I love hearing from you, so reach out anytime with questions or thoughts, and enjoy your weekend!
Each of these words has been used by people I’ve photographed to describe the feelings they have going into a shoot regardless of whether it was for a corporate headshot, a model portfolio, or a full-body revealing boudoir shoot. This tells me something about the power of photography. We are instinctively aware that photography is not just an act of capturing what we look like–our features, the lines of our bodies, but that it’s a deeper, more profound experience where who we are gets permanently documented.
Undeniable truths are revealed in images in a way that even the most expensive mirrors somehow cannot. Looking in a mirror, we still see what we want to see. But when a photographic image is created, we see ourselves as we are seen by others…and as we are inside. It’s magical…powerful…and beautiful…if the eye of the beholder is one worthy of the trust placed in her to capture another’s soul.
Inspiring Quotes About the Mind Body Soul Nature of Photography Compiled by Susan Eckert Photography
OK, so maybe you’ve never thought of photography quite like that before! LOL! If so, don’t worry, it’s ok.
But it’s certainly why I work as I do. And why I think it’s so important to make sure there’s a “fit” between me as the photographer, and my clients. I can only ensure there’s a “fit” by chatting or meeting with someone before we decide to work together. It’s also why I do not simply respond to emails asking about pricing by shooting off a link to the latest a la carte menu. That’s so impersonal. And misses the really important point.
To me, choosing a photographer isn’t like buying a pair of shoes commonly available, and where the best price naturally wins out. In that particular apples to apples scenario, clearly price is the only differentiator. It’s the same pair of shoes regardless of who’s selling it. Who hasn’t bought something from someone you probably would rather not buy from only because they had a better price on the same thing someone else was charging much more for?
No, to me, photography is more like choosing a therapist, or an interior decorator for an expensive long-term remodeling project. Both require trust. Both require the ability to establish a close personal relationship. And you’ve certainly gotta live with the long term effects of it all…and so it goes with photography.
So how do you go about preparing for such a photo shoot? Glad you asked. And the answer is by preparing both body AND mind.
Let’s start with the easy stuff. You can best prepare for a photo shoot by:
*Ensuring everything is neatly groomed–eyebrows neatly shaped–stray hairs removed, nails freshly manicured, facial and body hair removed, skin moisturized and free from excessive peeling or tan lines, hair dyed and/or trimmed (but this is not the time for radical changes I assure you!)
*Practicing good posture in a mirror–What conveys confidence? How can you project the attitude or feeling you wish to convey?
*Conducting a full assessment–What are your favorite features? What do you love about your body? Do you have “a best side?”
Take care of the details and the images will be that much more polished. Don’t rely on the photographer to photoshop these things. Photoshop is awesome, but it’s not without its limits.
Now, the tough stuff. You can best prepare your mind for a photo shoot by:
*Performing a thorough assessment – Why do you want to have professional images done right now? What can beautiful images that capture who you ARE do to enhance your life? Even if you feel you have to have images for other, external reasons (e.g. “My boss wants and updated headshot”) how might revealing your authentic self influence the outcome of your photo shoot?
*Identifying potentially negative self-talk: I always tell my clients “Sexy cannot live in the space occupied by negative self-talk.” And it’s true! Think of negative self-talk as a black hole. It sucks everything else out of existence. There can be no confidence, ease, sensuality, beauty, or strength when negative self talk is the inner dialogue during a photo shoot. And when I see it, the camera for sure is seeing it too. Sometimes I stop a session to ask “What are you thinking right now?” I do this because I know something negative is going on inside my client’s head. And I’m always right. And by calling it out, we can work together to correct or redirect what’s happening in that moment. Sometimes it’s as simple as “This outfit is uncomfortable” in which case we just take it off! So, identify your negative self talk. Whether it’s “I need to lose weight,” or “I’m not photogenic,” write down the things you tend to think about yourself that might not be exactly positive.
*Rewriting said negative self-talk: Literally take a sheet of paper and fold it in half. On the left side write down the negative things you may say to yourself. On the right side, rewrite it so that it’s focused on something positive like “I have a great smile,” “My eyes always look so bright in images.” And if you have trouble with this step, get a bottle of wine, invite a dear friend over, and have her set you right!
*Thinking positive: Expect great images and you’ll get them. Expect a great experience and it will be one. Open yourself up to the beauty of photography that captures the beauty of your soul and you’ll have images to cherish the rest of your life and share with the ones you love most.
I felt compelled to share this with you: I can’t deny the influence of my former training. Before I built up enough courage to pursue my love of photography I was trained in psychology. I hold a Masters degree from Columbia University in the field. And it certainly shapes my approach to my work now. My mission is to cheerlead, to empower, to uplift, to bring joy and smiles and love. But above all, to reveal the beauty of each person to themselves.
Thanks for reading and have a really wonderful day!
All the best,
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I hear so much talk these days about shooting natural light. Blah blah blah natural light. It’s everywhere.
Many if not most boudoir photographers shoot primarily natural light – which means they prefer to shoot with window light and reflectors. The result is not all are adept at the use of studio lighting. It takes time and effort to master studio lighting. You have to like the look of it and then you have to want to learn it. This is one thing that differentiates my work from many other boudoir photographers.
Don’t get me wrong, natural light is great. It has a certain glow to it and wraps the body beautifully. I particularly love it when it’s the look my client is going for and I’m happy to shoot that way.
But if you ask me, it gets boring real quick.
There’s so much more flexibility with studio lighting. Switch up the lighting and you get a completely different look and feel! I love shooting in a studio – that’s why I invested in a 2000 square foot studio space some have lovingly called “the woman cave” (because it’s like a hideaway, and although the front lounge room/makeup room is natural light, the lighting within the studio comes from soft lamp light. There are even curtains in the powder room!) Perfect for relaxing and enjoying your time away from it all.
In any case, to show you what I mean about the variety of looks you can get in one shoot, here are images from a recent boudoir session. All of these images were shot during the same shoot. It was fun to move from one boudoir set to another – switching up the poses each time as well as the outfits. And of course, switching up the lighting with each move. We had a blast! And the images are so beautiful!
Happy hump day and enjoy the rest of your week!
Portraiture & Commercial: Susan Eckert Photography
I’m so excited to announce that as a value-added service to my most lovely and wonderful boudoir clients (and that includes everyone), I am now offering a complementary boudoir Art of Posing class once a month!
This class is intended to ease pre-shoot jitters, share lots of valuable information, and give clients an opportunity to practice posing and get to know me – their photographer – a bit better BEFORE their boudoir sessions. But don’t worry, if you’re shy, you would never be put on the spot! There will be a model present. And I will be demonstrating exactly how I’ll be working with you — posing, shooting, demoing, and just having a goofy old time. You’ll get to see exactly how our boudoir shoot together will go.
It’s super ideal! With some of the basics out of the way, we can focus on getting the most awesome shots on the day of your shoot instead of taking time to teach you poses. Plus, you’ll get to practice when you go home and feel much more confident the day of your shoot.
Join Long Island Boudoir Photographer Susan Eckert for the Art of Posing (free to clients)!
This boudoir Art of Posing class is offered on a complementary basis exclusively to LIBoudoirPhotography.com clients.
But don’t worry, if you’d like to attend and learn the art of posing as well, but you’re not signed up for a future session with me, you’re welcome to attend as well. The fee for those not signed up for a future session is $150.
The first Art of Posing boudoir class will be held on March 28th at 7:30pm.
For further information send me an email or Like my FB page where additional information and details will be posted.
Have a great day!
All my best,
When this beauty reached out and asked if I would provide her with some professional shots, I was more than happy to oblige. Particularly as she was very interested in having some boudoir-type photos in her port.
She left the creative direction to me which was really super fun! I felt honored that she trusted me to do that.
Overall, I’d come up with three main concepts–which covered sets, lighting styles, and examples of some poses we could incorporate. I shared them with her when she first arrived (just to make sure she loved them as much as I did). Turned out, she was equally excited about them and her wardrobe was perfect.
Hubby had come along for the ride, but I explained we’d probably be a while (like several hours worth), so thinking twice about the merit of a thorough waiting room magazine exploration (hubbies aren’t allowed in the studio part of my space), he soon found other places to go and things to do! (Ladies – we do have to keep the mystery alive just a bit!)
Shoot strategy reviewed, she sat down with my amazing makeup artist–Kelly of Glam Me Up. Kelly was thrilled to work with someone who was so beautiful but also extremely sweet! They hit it off immediately just as I knew they would!
There are SOOOOO many beautiful shots from this session. But here’s a sneak peek at one of my favs.
Simply Beautiful! ~ Copyright Susan Eckert of www.LIBoudoirPhotography.com
Enjoy what’s left of your Sunday and may it be a great week ahead!
Susan Eckert is Long Island’s original fine art female boudoir photographer. She enjoys working with women of all ages, colors, shapes and sizes, and particularly welcomes women in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond to experience the empowering and uplifting experience that is boudoir photography.
And I don’t mean the makeup kind. You’d think, given that I spend most of my time shooting beauty, boudoir and glamour, that I would be referring to all the varied hues that highlight a woman’s cheekbones and make her beauty shine.
“Wouldn’t blush be a perfect theme for a boudoir shoot?” ponders Long Island female boudoir photographer Susan Eckert
But no. I simply am referring to the color. I’ll admit, I’ve never fallen in love with a color before. (Well, maybe I did in my anxiety-ridden adolescent years when absolutely EVERYTHING had to be purple.) But as an adult, no, I’ve never been so fixated on a single color.
Maybe it’s winter blues and blahs. But whenever I get oh so sick of the cold, dreary days here on Long Island, I turn to Pinterest and run a search on what’s peach, pink and BLUSH!
There’s just something about blush. It’s all things most woman aspire to be — soft, feminine, pretty, sophisticated, understated, elegant, mysterious, inviting, sensual and yes, sexy. Whether it’s a pair of blush shoes with an organza rose perfectly perched on the toes, or delicate blush lingerie, or a flowy sheer blush skirt, I sigh and think of all the possibilities. All the stories these individual parts could tell.
And so, I decided to put together a Pinterest board that tells a whole story about a blushing bride to be anxiously awaiting her big day.
It even incorporates the elements she plans to incorporate into her pre-wedding day boudoir session! : )
I can even see the versatility in the shoot – The good girl wearing blush/The bad girl wearing blush.
I’m even inspired to makeover one of my settees. I haven’t decided on a new look for this gorgeous piece I acquired a couple of months ago…but now I’m thinking blush brocade!
You can find the Pinterest board here. I’d love to know if you find it as inspiring as I do! Because spring, after all, certainly can’t get here soon enough!
Oh, and should you decide you’d like to try your own blush-inspired boudoir session, give me a holler!
Wishing you health and happiness and glorious visions of springtime!
I first posted this blog in March of 2012. A full year ago. I decided to repost because not a day goes by that I don’t get a chuckle from someone who reaches out and says I’d LOVE to do a session, but……and launches into one or more of the below reasons why they shouldn’t do it now. I’m glad to say that in the past year some of these women have stepped forward, whether it was 3 months, 6 months or more down the line. I’m happy they were able to achieve their goals. OR that they just said, “Ah, heck with it! I’m doing it now.” So, I thought I’d repost this blog, in the hopes that it might inspire someone to let go of her fears, insecurities and reservations. And just go for it!
Reason #1: “I want to lose 10 (20, 30…) pounds first”
If you’re anything like me, you’ve been saying this very thing for months…even years (Yep! That’s my reality.) But the truth is professional photographers know how to use lighting and posing to slim figures, minimize trouble zones, and maximize assets. That’s one of my particular strengths too apparently, because just about every week someone emails or calls to ask if I only shoot size 0 and size 2 girls! What?! My portfolio features many women who are size 12 and up….they’re just shot so that you don’t immediately say “HEY, that’ girl’s a size 16!” That’s the job of a good photographer! And so I take it as a compliment every time someone asks me if I only shoot models. Sure, I could post before and after pics, but honestly, what’s the point of that? I’d rather just celebrate the beauty I already see whenever I meet someone new for the first time – that’s the beauty I want to capture and show to the world.
Reason #2: “I want to tone up / build those six pack abs first”
Ah. Six pack abs….I used to have those once upon a time. Before I hit my 30s, 40s….had three kids, settled into suburban life, feel in love with wine and steaks and lots of rich foods that aren’t so kind to my waistline (ICE CREAM!!!!). Yeah. My six pack abs are still there, they’re just neatly hidden beneath a healthy layer of estrogen producing fat. Lots of pluses to estrogen, ya know?! But I digress. My point here is that if you’ve never had six pack abs, why make that the ultimatum right now? And if you did have them, well, take a look at most Victoria’s Secret models. You’ll hardly see a six pack ab in the bunch. In fact, lots of women considered beautiful and sexy tend to be curvy and soft (Hello! Marilyn Monroe?). So, an athletic build is not a requirement for being sexy. AND, again, there are poses that will play up your best features (eyes, hair, back, shoulders, legs, bottom, feet, etc.). So why not focus on those?
Reason #3: “I want to find a boyfriend/husband to give it to first”
This one’s easy peasy! I have to say the reason women come to me for boudoir is pretty much split 50/50…at first! 50% say they want to do it for hubby, beau, whomever. The other half admits – this is a gift to themselves. But know what? 99.9% will say, once they’ve gone through the experience, that it was the best gift they ever gave themselves! And many will come back to do it again as a self-esteem boost, a confidence builder, or because the first go-round was so empowering, they want to do it again and play a bit more maybe with different looks, etc. In short, every woman will be so happy to look back when she’s a grandma and say “Damn! I was smokin’ hot!” Isn’t that one of the best gifts a woman can give herself?
Reason #4: “I have to find the perfect outfit first”
Some women get so hung up on outfits. When really, it’s only a nice accessory. The focal point of beauty and sensual images as I see it should be one thing and only one thing: YOU. So, wear clothes. Don’t wear clothes. Grab a piece of fabric and do an implied nude. Outfits are secondary. Their main purpose as I see it? To give you the confidence to feel sexy and show that sexy. I’ve shot women wearing great outfits; wearing a piece of jewelry and nothing more; or, wearing absolutely nothing other than what God sent them into this world with….and guess what, they’re all perfect and beautiful as is!
Reason #5: “I’m too old”
To this one I say BAH HUMBUG!!! Get outta town! No such thing!!! Seriously! I LOVE shooting women who are in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond. One of the hottest clients I’ve ever shot was a grandma who wouldn’t tell me her age! LOL! It became a running joke. I could never quite guess. But it didn’t matter. What DID matter was that she was a spicy little number who still had it (finger snaps in the margins here for you theater folks). She proved that 60, 70, whatever decade she was in, can be and is beautiful! Not to mention sexy! To date, the most mature person I’ve shot was 82….I’m hoping to beat that number….any takers? : P
Reason #6: “I’m a mom of 2, 3, 4, 5 (or more)…it’s too late for me.”
Blah, blah, blah. Seriously? EVEN MORE should you worship that body? Do you realize what it’s done?? It’s created whole human beings! An amazing miracle! A superhuman feat! So what if your body wears a few battle scars as a result? Honor them! And show the world that being a hot mamma is not only possible but oh-so-often the very case! I’m so glad every time I see a new celebrity mom strut her stuff. Shows the rest of us that yeah, we have the right to be hot too! Claim it!
Reason #7: “I’ll never be a size two and it looks like all the women on your site are that size”
Um. Not telling tales out of school. But, no. They’re not. Not all of em. Reference reason #1 and you’ll see why the images give you that impression. Nuff said here…
Reason #8: “The camera hates me! (I’m not photogenic – look at my FB profile pics!)”
I can SOOOOOO relate to this one. No one ever believes me til they see it firsthand, but, yeah, I suck in front of the camera. SERIOUSLY! I’m so like deer in high beam headlights! Ha ha! Sure, I’m a pro at telling others what to do and how to do it…but put me in front of a point and shoot or zoom lens and oh boy! Another story! But the point here is twofold – first, most point and shoots with their direct harsh neon lights quality flash make most of us look terrible! Really! It’s like looking at yourself in a bathing suit in those horrible dept store florescent lights! In the hands of an amateur who has no clue about focal lengths and their effect on distortion of the human face/figure (e.g. ever see those self-portraits where the nose looks 10x bigger than anything else on the face? uh huh…) it’s a small wonder that we ever see good pics of ourselves in general. In the hands of a “professional” who doesn’t have a knack for angles either or a sense for that same science about focal length and distortion, you get thick thighs and all those dreaded distortions as well – the very things we fear most! So, a lot has to do with angles, knowing what lens to use, how to pose, lighting, the whole kit and kaboodle. BUT, here’s the good news, in the right hands, EVERYONE can look their absolute supermodel best! I did say there was a second point, didn’t I….hmmm….must be old age creeping up on me. Onward then!
Reason #9: “I’m too shy!”
True story! I had a woman come once who was sooooo nervous that she was physically shaking! And yet, within 10, ok maybe 20 minutes she was cracking up, loving the images she saw, and hamming it up. Another true story: this particular scenario plays itself out pretty much 95% of the time! I kid you not. Most people who come to me are nervous. I think it’s only natural. Unless you model for a living, darn right it’s hard to model in your skivvies in front of an absolute stranger for a few hours! Good thing though, I’m a total clown. So if you have a sense of humor, it’s kinda hard to hold onto that nervous energy when I’m making a total fool of myself! True story!
Reason #10: “I can’t afford it!”
Alright, out of all the reasons thus far, this one is the one I’m most likely to understand. But then again, I hear this from women who sport Christian Louboutin’s, drive BMWs or Mercedes cars, etc, etc. Those material things come and go. Will you still be so keen on wearing those thousand + dollar shoes when they’ve become “Last year’s” model? On the other hand, a professional photography boudoir or glamour shoot that’s a snapshot in time, that captures your beauty today as it exists NOW, that will be beautifully designed and bound in an album or mounted on an art print, that you’ll look back on in a few years and be so proud you did, that you’ll look back on decades later and beam about, isn’t that SOOOOOO worth the investment? Isn’t that worth saving up for (Yes, I do offer payment plans and it works really great!)? Most women go through the boudoir experience and beam about it – saying it was the biggest esteem boost they’ve ever had! Isn’t that worth something? Bottom line is, if you value yourself, your happiness, and want to celebrate YOU, this is a worthwhile investment. And that’s just speaking in terms of YOU. Once we put honey or your S.O. into the mix, it’s becomes a completely generous giving of oneself that is just so wonderful! I’ve gotten letters from boyfriends, fiances, husbands that have touched me so much – these men GET it! They get that it must have been a difficult step for their girlfriends, fiances and wives to take. And they really, really appreciate it. As a bonding step, isn’t that worth something as well?
Ok, if you can come up with any other excuses, I mean reasons, send me a note at email@example.com - I’d love to hear em! ; )
Have a wonderful weekend – SPRING IS ALMOST HERE!!!! YAY!
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