…and every passing year that ol’ adage makes more and more sense.
See, when I was in my 20s I didn’t appreciate my body at all. I had an athletic, thin build, and gasp, 7% body fat!
I mean, what was there to complain about?! While everyone around me rolled their eyes, I pointed out all the things I wasn’t happy with, didn’t like, didn’t appreciate, and wished were different when really, I should have appreciated my body for the lean, youthful, fit thing it was.
Because now, as a mother of three (two of which are twins) and well into my 40s I look back on that silly 20-something brat, wanna find a time travel machine, go back in time, find her, smack her in the head, and then steal her body back! : )
Funny enough, as I reflect on the wonderful women I’ve worked with on boudoir photography – the 20-somethings, 30-somethings, 40-somethings, 50-somethings, and 60-somethings…I find that my youthful silliness isn’t in fact such a rare thing. Sooooo many women say, “If only I’d appreciated what I had back then!”
Now, mind you, I totally think 50 year olds are the new 30 year olds! I’m not even kidding! When I was a kid, 50 year old women looked, well, old. Somewhere along the line, they’d been told they were no longer sexy, no longer beautiful, and worse, that they shouldn’t even try to be. But today that is so very much not the case! 40, 50, and 60-somethings often exude a sensuality most 20-somethings haven’t yet mastered.
That they’ve lived a bit, faced challenges, overcome them, fought for their identities, and embraced the somewhat freer roles women enjoy today translates into a special kind of sexy a really young person, by its very definition, can’t possess.
And that’s why I love shooting boudoir with women in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond!
And it’s also why I’m learning to stop looking backwards, and to embrace what I have today.
Hope you do the same!
Long Island’s Original Fine Art Boudoir Photographer